The Best and Worst Part Of Having Your Spouse As Your Best Friend

people often think that two friends can find it difficult to admit their feelings for one another due to their fear that it may ruin the friendship that has already been established for so long. Some people may think that if things don’t work out, then it may be impossible for them to go back to being friends since there is now history that may make things awkward for both parties. That is because it is a little rare for two people to resume their friendship once more after a romantic relationship.

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In 2017, there are over 60 million recorded married couples in the entire world

There are relationships that ended up working out even if they start with just friendship, and similarly, there are friendships that may start out romantically. What most people don’t understand is that friendship will always be a part of a romantic partnership whether it comes before or after the relationship. If two people are in love but aren’t exactly friends, their romance may not last, hence some couples don’t end up growing old together.

Your Spouse: A Partner and A Friend

When married couples who have been together for decades now are asked what exactly is their secret for a happy marriage, most of them would reveal that being each other’s friend is the key. It is a fact that there are no such things as perfect couples and perfect relationships, but one thing is for sure though, and that is there are people who are just perfect for one another.

These couples find their way towards each other by looking for that person they are compatible with to the point that they could spend the rest of their lives together, hence giving the term ‘significant other’ its true meaning. Some people may say that their partner is like their best friend, and that’s when you know that they have been through so much that they stayed together no matter what.

There are also some who think find their partner similar to them in so many ways and they often think that it’s not ideal for two people who are quite like each other to be together. But while having similarities is a good thing, if there isn’t a lot of variety in your relationship, you’ll always feel that something is missing.

Just like you cannot be complete with just having one arm or one leg (even though you may still function), you also can’t be fulfilled without all the different colors in your relationship. This basically means that having differences are something that a couple must treasure just as much as their similarities because these differences will be the ones to test how much you can sacrifice for your loved one, as well as how far you are willing to go for them.

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The oldest married couple were together for more than 80 years

It doesn’t necessarily have to be so complicated. Being a friend to your partner just mean that you can be there for them as their significant other, but at the same time, despite all the flaws and negativity, a great friend will still value you as a person. If you and your special someone is great friends despite being a couple, then it is something that you must treasure. Share it to inspire others, and at the same time let it grow.

Downsides Of Having Your Partner As A Friend

If you consider your significant other as your best friend, then they will most likely support you in whatever you do, they always make you feel special, they always make time for you, they will always be there when you need them the most, but most of all, they love and accept you no matter what.

Unfortunately, there are downsides if you consider one another as friends despite being a couple. Some relationship experts say that there will always be disadvantages of every viewpoint, because there are no perfect relationships.

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Experts say that one of the best ways to stay together as a couple is by becoming friends as well.

One specific downside is when you get into a disagreement or a misunderstanding, you may confide with your other friends about it, but you know that no one knows you and understands you as much as your partner. Experts say that this downside is inevitable, which is why you must always have an open mind and think of everything to save the relationships.

This is why most old couples believe that in order for a marriage to last a lifetime, when something gets broken, the couple must work together and find a way for them to fix it, instead of throwing everything away. Keep in mind that your relationship is a treasure that can only be guarded if two people work together to keep it safe.